The Message: Old Lovers & Friends...


Real.

I was scrolling down my timeline and the tweet that I posted above, hit me right in the chest and then in the head. I realized that I had somewhat of an issue with letting go. There were numerous individuals that I was still holding onto from past friendships, relationships, and even business situations. Because I valued them greatly at some point in my life, I felt the need to always hold them in the highest regard, to always leave that place there for them, to even continue to reach out when it seemed dead on their end. Maybe it's just the type of person I am, maybe it was a deep need for everyone to like me, I don't know. But it was something. 

But after reading this tweet, I had an epiphany.. an awakening. I quickly realized and accepted the fact that everything that I was holding onto was over.. done.. finished. It was time to let go.. so I let go of it all. These burdens were immediately lifted from my heart and mind. I was free. I learned quickly, in that moment, to be cool with letting people and situations go. And not always for negative reasons, sometimes you just outgrow them. It's the shedding process in becoming a better version of you. Only regret is it took me until I was 30 plus to come to this realization.

 A season, reason or a lifetime...

So there's a lot of people that I still love, care for, and respect but they are now absent from my circle and my life. And I'm genuinely content with it now. Memories are forever though. I wish you well. God bless. 1


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